By Tonny Wandella
Everyone admires someone who is self-assured. Something about the way they hold themselves, the way they speak, and the self-assured coolness with which they act attracts us to them. They entice us. They enchant and inspire us.
The goal is to recognise the difference between genuine and phoney self-assurance. The former is based on consistent practice. The latter receives no support.
True confidence is demonstrated when you trust in yourself yet are modest enough to seek assistance when necessary. Fake confidence would be when you act arrogantly cause you believe you know everything and are superior to others. True self-confidence grows from deliberate action. Fake self-assurance clings to discourse.
Here are three behaviours that can help you boost your self-esteem. They are based on what self-assured people do.
Have Faith in your Ability to “Figure Things Out.”
As previously said, no one has it all figured out, but what distinguishes confident people from others is their belief in their capacity to figure it out. Your self-belief is what feeds your confidence.
Do not confuse believing with pretending. Believing is based on one’s sense of oneself. The impression of others is the basis of deception. You are daring and modest to acknowledge that you don’t know anything when you are based on self-belief. That’s why people who are feigning confidence are so obvious: they’re changeable and arrogant. Everyone can see right through their lies.
Prepare for Unexpected Situations.
Going into a crisis unprepared is a show of immaturity and ignorance, not confidence. And anyone who professes to have it all figured out and attempts to create an aura of invincibility is faking it. The truth is that no one has everything figured out. Confident people are prepared to accept this and lessen it by devising a strategy. They do research. They make inquiries. They hone their skills. They are preparing for what is to come.
Seek Discomfort and Accept Failure
You will not grow if you stay in your comfort zone, therefore if you want to build your confidence, make it a practice to immerse yourself in new situations that would make you feel uncomfortable. Confident individuals do not avoid change; rather, they constantly pursue it because they understand that discomfort fosters confidence. They recognise that there is no guarantee of success — but they are fine with failure because they understand that failure is only a roadblock along the route.