Going Through Problems is the Only Way Out of Them

By Conqueror Team

We all have those low points in life when we feel that, despite working extra hard and to the best of our abilities, the universe is conspiring against us and making life tough. Be it in relationships, employment, economics, health, or almost everything else in life. When things get tough, we tend to do what is expected of us – either put things off or avoid problems.

Running away from the problem provides you with a temporary sense of comfort — that you have managed to escape the danger you could have been in, that the blame shifts to something or someone else, and a general sense of optimism that things will get better, among other things.

To begin, recognise that “running away from your difficulties is a race you will never win.” Because one day, regardless of how long it has been or how far away you are, you will have to deal with them; you will have to mend them.

When you run away from your difficulties, you may have to confront them again, which will be twice as difficult to conquer. Furthermore, when you finish running, you will be thousands of miles away from those who love you, and your problem will still be there, but you will have no one to help you.

Face Your Issues

As much as achievement leaves hints, so do problems. To discover the pattern, you only need to keep your mind and soul engaged. You’ll be able to find your way out once you comprehend them. Problems are never a dead end; they are only guides for progress, so spend time understanding and resolving them.

When you’re in difficulty, don’t get caught up in what’s going on around you; instead, focus on what’s going on within you. Only by looking back can you connect the dots. Self-reflection is a very humbling exercise; it might reveal a new you that you were unaware existed. Reexamine the judgments took and the options available.

Every person in our society experiences low points. Some people may be able to handle or even hide it better than others. But the reality is that whatever you are going through, others have gone through it as well. You’re not by yourself. Make an effort to reach out to your community and network. Speak out and share your concerns in all aspects of your life.

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4 Mental Tricks to Conquer Fear


You can’t be successful if you’re ruled by fear. Here’s how I reprogrammed my brain to be more courageous.

Fear is the enemy of success
. Large rewards only result from taking comparably large risks. If you’re ruled by fear, you’ll never take enough risks and never achieve success you deserve.

If I’ve learned anything in this life, it’s that the actions that scared me the most at the time–leaving a cushy corporate job to freelance, asking my beautiful wife for a first date, and adopting our two kidshave also paid off the most.

That doesn’t mean these moves aren’t hard at the time, but I’ve managed to retrain my brain to get past the momentary fear and push toward the payoff. Here are four ideas that I’ve made an integral part of my thinking:

1. Value Courage Over Security

Repeated surveys have shown that most people value “security” over just about everything else in their lives. People will put up with jobs that they hate, marriages that make them miserable, and habits that are killing them (think “comfort food”) simply to feel more secure.

To conquer fear, you must consciously dethrone “security” as the thing that you value most in your life and replace it with the active virtue of “courage.” You must decide, once and for all, that it’s more important for you to have the courage to do what you must to succeed, rather than to cling to the things that make you feel safe.

2. Differentiate Between Fear & Prudence

Most fears are irrational and unreasonable. For example, you might be afraid to make an important call because if the call doesn’t go well, you’ll have to face the fact that you “failed.”  Or you might be afraid to confront a co-worker who acts like a bully, or to start your own business because you’re not certain you’ve got what it takes.

It’s these irrational fears that hold you back and keep you from being more successful.

That said, there are other kinds of fear that are actually just simple prudence. For example, you might be afraid to drive aggressively because you might cause an accident. Or you might be afraid to be arrested if you sell a product that kills people.

Prudence is a good thing. Just make sure you aren’t pretending to be prudent–when you’re just trying to avoid taking reasonable business risks, for instance, or putting yourself on the line to do what’s necessary.

3. Treat Fear as a Call to Action

If what you fear is outside of your control (like an economic downturn), write down a specific plan of the exact steps that you’ll take in order to adapt, if and when it happens. Once you’ve completed that task, put the plan aside and have the courage to forget about it. You’ve done what you can; it’s time to move on.

But if what you fear is inside your control–some action that you’re afraid to take, that is–take a few moments to prepare yourself, then do the thing that’s scaring you.

I mean now. Not tomorrow; not next week. Right now, before you read the rest of this post. Call that person. Write that email. Create a business plan. Do it now!

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Health Anxiety: What It is and How to Beat It

By Ken Goodman, LCSW

The illness you fear might not be the illness you have. I recently conducted an online support group for people with all sorts of health fears, from cancer and heart disease to ALS and MS. Each shared their worries about moles on the skin, irregular heart palpitations, and numbness and tingling. Although their specific fears varied, they all had one thing in common; none of them had ever been diagnosed with a series illness and they all related to the following scenario:

Dina felt great after getting a clean bill of health from her physician but as she tried to fall asleep, she dwelled on one statement he made, Tumors can grow at any time. Come back in six months if you’re concerned.  Questions raced through her mind as she tossed and turned, Why did he tell me that? If there was nothing wrong, why would he say come back in six months?  What if he missed something? Why do I keep getting headaches and dizziness? Dina felt so anxious she got out of bed and searched the web for answers.  As she reread the same articles about symptoms of brain cancer, she began to feel lightheaded.  Why do I keep feeling this way? Do I really have brain cancer? Is this really happening? 

The good news was, Dina did not have brain cancer or a brain tumor. Dina had health anxiety. There are two types of health anxieties: Somatic Symptom Disorder and Illness Anxiety Disorder, formally known as hypochondriasis.  Many people with health anxiety are often unable to function or enjoy life due to their fears and preoccupations. They obsess over bodily functions (breathing, heartbeat), physical oddities (skin blemishes), and physical discomfort (headaches, stomach aches, lightheadedness).They might worry about a specific organ (brain, heart) or a disease they heard about on the news or at work (MS, diabetes). They are preoccupied with the belief that they have, or are in danger of contracting, a serious illness. Many will purse doctors and tests repeatedly for reassurance, but are reluctant to seek mental health treatment since they believe their condition is medically based.   

Why does health anxiety persist despite reassurance from doctors?

Although some refuse to be examined by their physician due to their fear of discovering the worst, seeking reassurance from doctors, insisting on repeated medical tests, and visits to urgent care, are more common in health anxiety. Being reassured by the doctor that there is no serious medical illness brings relief — temporarily. The vicious cycle quickly resumes as new thoughts and physical sensation surface, followed by googling and self-diagnosis, misinterpretations of news in the media, anxiety, and more visits to doctors to resolve the uncertainty. The cycle ignites with each new alarming thought or symptom. 

The False Alarm

Car alarms are set off when a criminal breaks in but imagine how problematic it would be if the siren blared each time a pedestrian walked by.  The car alarm would be misinterpreting innocent people as dangerous criminals.

With health anxiety there is the misinterpretation of discomfort and normal bodily sensations as dangerous. The body is very noisy. Healthy human bodies produce all sorts of physical symptoms that might be uncomfortable, unexpected, and unwanted, but not dangerous.

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6 Coping Skills to Work Through Grief

Hope Gillette is a freelance writer and published novelist. She’s passionate about providing accurate, empathetic mental health content for readers, and believes writing can help combat stigma and improve wellness outcomes.

Feeling overwhelmingly sad may be a natural reaction to loss. But what do you do when the emotion stops you in your tracks?

Loss is a unique experience. Not everyone goes through mourning and grief in the same way, and there’s no such thing as “grieving correctly.”

In fact, grief can take many different forms, from feelings of numbness to unstoppable tears. Some people go through five stages of loss, but other people have different experiences. Every reaction is unique and valid.

There’s no deadline for grieving. How long it takes you to process a loss depends on many factors. One of them could be the resources you have at hand. For example, your coping skills.

What is grief?

Grief usually refers to deep emotional sorrow resulting from a loss. However, it’s not always the loss of a loved one.

Losing a home or job, experiencing a natural disaster, or even witnessing someone you love go through a difficult time may cause you to grieve. For some people, the end of a romantic relationship may also lead to grieving.

Despite what some people may believe, grief and depression are not the same.

Depression is a formal mental health diagnosis with specific and identifiable criteria or symptoms.

In some cases, an unresolved grieving process could lead to symptoms of depression. But this is not always the case and depends on many factors.

Both grief and depression can involve feelings of sadness and hopelessness, but with grief, these are typically connected to a specific event or loss.

Symptoms of depression may also last longer and often require the support of a mental health professional to manage them, which is not usually the case with grieving.

What are coping skills?

Coping skills are those thoughts and actions you use to respond to events that may cause you distress. You have probably learned this along the way and from influence and experience.

These skills are conscious strategies you put in place to manage emotions such as anger, anxiety, fear, or sadness. They don’t necessarily resolve the situation, but you may find they help you manage how you feel.

For example, after a fight with your partner, you could practice meditation for 10 minutes or have a glass of wine.

Coping skills can be simple tactics you use in the moment as you feel your emotions rise. They can also be long-term strategies you focus on when you’re going through extended difficult periods, like when you’re grieving.

But not all coping skills help you relieve distress. Some may actually delay the process and some of them may put you or someone else’s safety in jeopardy.

Avoidant vs. active coping skills

When you experience grief, you may find yourself working with active or avoidant coping skills. It may depend on the situation or on how you’re used to managing distressing events.

Active coping means you try to directly address the source of your emotional pain with thoughts or actions that change the event itself or the way you look at it.

Avoidant coping skills are more about using strategies that take your mind or heart off the event.

For example, an active coping skill may be asking someone to help you solve a problem, while an avoidant coping skill could be alcohol use.

According to a 2016 studyTrusted Source, active coping mechanisms tend to be most effective when managing distress.

Coping skills when grieving

The goal of coping skills is often to reduce or endure the negative emotions and thoughts that may come with grief or about actively solving problems.

Positive reframing

Also known as “looking at the bright side,” positive reframing may feel challenging at first, particularly when grieving.

Reframing can be cognitive — focused on your thoughts, or emotional — focused on how you feel.

It’s natural to feel there are no positives in your loss. But with positive reframing, you’re not disregarding the importance of your loss. You’re focusing on appreciating those aspects that may still connect you with the person or event you lost.

For example, you may focus on good memories and lessons learned, or you could work on a tribute. These actions may reframe your grieving emotions and bring you temporary relief.


Laughter during a time of loss may feel impossible, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t moments here and there where you can find humor. Read more https://psychcentral.com/health/coping-skills-for-grief#coping-skills-for-grief

7 Essential Habits To Overcome Any Fear

Fear is nothing more than an obstacle that stands in the way of progress. In overcoming our fears we can move forward, stronger and wiser within ourselves.

BY MATTEO TROVATO for Ominipositive

F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear is a self-created feeling created from an imaginary belief based on the illusion of separation.

Many people have fears about all kinds of things. The greatest ones may be dying, it may be rejection or it may be the commitment in relationships.

Fear, though, is never in the present moment. Fear is either in the past or in the future. To let go of fear, you have to tap into the present moment.

The power is in the now  

You have to recognize that fear is the greatest energy vampire in your life, and the more you are in fear, the more you lose your energy.

Letting go of fear is an ongoing process and you have to work at it every single day. Working on your fears for a day or two isn’t hard, but it doesn’t bring the necessary results either.

If you are serious about letting go of your fears, then you have to be focused and consistent in following these seven habits. continue reading https://www.omnipositive.com/7-essential-habits-to-overcome-any-fear/