7 things you shouldn’t do if you want to raise mentally strong kids

By Amy Morin 

Teaching kids how to develop mental strength isn’t about ensuring they won’t cry or insisting they push themselves to their limits all the time.

It’s about raising a child who is equipped with the social and emotional skills they need to become a responsible adult.

One of the best ways to help kids develop resilience is to give up unhealthy parenting habits that rob kids of the mental strength they need to think, feel, and perform at their best.

Here are seven parenting habits you should give up if you want to raise mentally strong kids.

1. Minimizing your child’s feelings

When you say things like, “Don’t worry about it. It’s not a big deal,” you’re implying that your child’s feelings are wrong — or that they don’t matter.

Kids need to know that it’s okay to feel a wide variety of emotions. And the key to living their best life is about managing emotions (not suppressing them).

A healthier message is to say, “I know you feel scared right now, but I also know you’re strong enough to face your fears.”

2. Giving in to misbehavior

It’s tempting to give in when your child is whining or throwing a tantrum — especially on the days when you just don’t have the time or energy to address the issue.

But each time you give them what they want, you teach your child that their misbehavior is an effective way to get their needs met. If you want to raise mentally strong kids, stick to your limits. Teach them that they can cope with their discomfort and learn healthier ways to manage their emotions.

3. Overindulging your child

You might think it’s cute to spend exorbitant amounts of money on your child. Or maybe it makes you feel good that you can give your child all of the things you never had growing up.

But there’s a lot of research that shows just how unhealthy overindulgence is for kids. If they always get everything they want, they miss out on learning valuable life skills — like self-discipline.

They’ll also be more likely to grow up to be materialistic, which is associated with decreased levels of happiness in adulthood.

Set limits on what you give your child. Let them know what it’s like to experience disappointment, and teach them how to work for things they want to have.

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