What do you do when you have been telling yourself you can reach your goal, and you’re losing every day? What do you do when you’ve lost your spirit, you’ve lost your job, you’ve lost everything, life’s been devastating? Once you are defeated in your mind, ladies and gentlemen, it’s all over. Your problem is that your pain has identified you. Your pain has weakened you.
You have a choice how you respond to your pain. And some of you in this room, for real, I’m just gonna be honest with you, you’re getting wimpy on me, you’re getting soft on me. You are not the only person that’s been through a divorce, boo, get over it. You’re not the first one, you won’t be the last one.
You can turn that divorce into something. You’re not the first one to lose your promotion and get fired. You’re not the first one. You’re not the first one they let go of, you won’t be the last one.
The question is, what are you gonna do about it? I know what it is to walk the floor, and you don’t know how you’re gonna make it. When people no longer believe in you. And you’re all you got. And you got to say to yourself, when you fail again and again, they tell you no, sometimes with tears in your eyes, it’s possible.
When life stagger you, the thing that will get you up on your knees, and you get you standing in the center of the ring, and find something from somewhere deep down in, to keep on slugging, and keep on fighting is it’s possible. It’s possible, if I just stand long enough, I can pull this off. When you’re facing defeat and disappointment, seem like life has written you off, and everybody says you can’t do it. You don’t have what it takes.
All you need to affirm, that in-spite of this, it’s possible that I can do it. So what makes ET different than everybody else? Every year, I just kept going. And I kept going, and I kept going, and I kept saying one day gonna be my day. You know what I’m not gonna do? I’m not gonna quit in the process.
I’m not gonna give up, I’m not gonna give in. I invested too much to quit. I made too many sacrifices to give up. I paid too much.
Listen to me, I cannot stop what happens to me, but I can dictate how I respond. So when life happens, I don’t sit there and cry. I buck back. I will greet this day with love in my heart and I will overcome evil.
And the problem with some of you in this room, you will never be great, because every time you go through pain, every time you go through a problem, every time you go through discouragement, you give up and you quit, and you do not understand that at the end of pain is your millions. At the end of pain is your reward. At the end of pain is your productivity. At the end of pain is your promise.
So do me a favor, Stop crying about it, and use your energy to get through it. I’m talking to you, you’re going through a storm right now, and I’m telling you that this too shall pass, like every storm that has come to you. And I’m telling you, whatever you’re going through right now, if you can just muster up enough strength to hold on and hold out, if you do not quit, if you do not give up, it’s coming baby. Hold on.
I don’t care how long it take you to finish school, hold on. I don’t care how long it takes you to pass that bar exam, you keep going. You keep studying. You keep writing.
You keep singing. You keep rapping. You keep boxing. You keep fighting.
You keep dribbling. You just keep on keeping on. And if you persevere, every storm that’s come, it will pass. Recycle your pain.
You can decide the shape, the form, you can decide the product that comes from your pain. Look up, get up and don’t ever give up.
Believe it or not, you all have one emotional need in common. Sounds extreme for you to be linked with both the hatefulness of Hitler and pure love of Mother Teresa, right?
Of course, but it does highlight the fact that within the human spirit lies unfathomable hate and selfless love. I believe these traits are within us all; the horrors of the 20th century reveal I’m not exaggerating the darkness that envelopes the human condition. Yet, without this need human kind would not have flourished, it’s also the downfall of many a great man too.
And that need is … DESIRE.
Think for a moment. Is there anything you undertake that isn’t fuelled by desire? Even the most selfless acts in life foster the desire to be a good person.
Over the past year I’ve given a lot of time and study to this one topic. And, in my latest fictional book Code of the Conqueror – The Journey, I have introduced how becoming awake to The Six Great Desires of life can propel your happiness and sense of wellbeing or, lead to a life spiralling out of control.
Unfortunately, our desires represent an inner conflict that will never be won. There is no end. The same is true of everyone you encounter too.
But these internal desires must be tamed and understood to achieve a fulfilled life. This is the starting point of my Code of the Conqueror. Without these essential lessons you will forever falter in your quest, to both find and master your true self.
In my opinion desires are the true drivers that emotionally charge our lives and must be the first subject to be handled if you’re serious about improving any aspect of your life.
“There comes a time in life when you must confront your inner voices or be forever at their mercy. That time is now.”
The Six Great Desires
Obviously, the following six desires do not represent every single desire known to man, but I do feel they’re the starting point to reflect upon your past choices and future needs.
Within each desire there will always be a light and dark side, a yin and yang, you could say. This simply illustrates how we all choose to emotionalise our desires. Yes, it is a choice, like everything else that happens in your life, it’s down to you.
Power No one has ever craved less power, they may wish for less responsibility but not at the sake of power. We must also remain vigilant of how others try to manipulate us. From the media, to our family and friends. Power resides in even the most unassuming circumstances. Stay observant.
Action Without action there is nothing. We must desire some form of action or life is pointless. But the desire for action without giving clear thought to its outcome can soon lead to self-destruction.
Relationships To be loved and to love is the greatest need of mankind. But far too often we become too agreeable and allow ourselves to be treated wrongly, simply to keep the peace. When we desire good relationships, yet put up with bullying, fakeness and narrow-mindedness, we are heading for a stormy landing. Too often we settle for less than we deserve.
Knowledge No one knows everything. Submerged in our own importance, we can often see no further than the end of our nose. Only through proper knowledge and training can we open ourselves to the perspectives and wisdom of those who have gone before us. We must continually improve our minds.
Lust Times of lust do not last long, they pass quickly. Nothing in this world can be long enjoyed, yet the harm will stay within. If you are diligent and loving, you may do whatever you wish, but a life out of balance can quickly manifest itself into pure lust and continue forever. Most ignore the lesson.
Energy Have you ever desired less energy? I guess you haven’t. No one ever has. After all, energy is the life force of man. There has never been a true leader of men who has lacked energy—at least not in the beginning of their rise to power. The problems stem from excessive energy and overly optimistic attitude, which leads to reaching further and further down a rabbit hole. For what? Many never know, but energy creates momentum which must be tamed, as with all desires. Even Conquerors need to sparkle.Those who know me well enough, know I love an acronym; for me I find it easier to recall and use time and time again. And, to complete the framework for DESIRES, within the Code of the Conqueror, I have added Self-Mastery, without it you do not stand a chance of becoming the person you wish to be.
Self-Mastery Power Action Relationships Knowledge Lust Energy
Through Code of the Conqueror – The Journey, I echo many of the teachings of the Buddha, and he valued the notion of ridding ourselves of all desires. Which if you are in a mountain retreat away from civilisation, then maybe many desires can be lessened through meditation and solitude. For us mere mortals though, desire represents a double-edged sword, that will always present in itself in one form or another.
But I feel there is one paragraph from the teachings of the Buddha we should end with, and that is, ‘Man’s own mind lures him into evil ways, not his enemy or friend. The one who protects his mind from jealousy, greed, anger and infatuation, is the one who enjoys real and lasting peace.’ Until next time, stay true to you and choose your desires wisely.
If you can trust it, you can acquire it. If you may agree with it, you could acquire it. This is something that you listen plenty of. And I get it.
I get it, because in case you’re gonna do something, you gotta trust in what you’re doing, that’s real. But wager what? Belief by itself doesn’t get you whatever. You gotta impose your will, you gotta be disciplined, and you gotta make things happen. And so I love the procedure.
I adore it, I love operating for what I need. I love the sacrifice, I love the dedication, I love the dedication. I love that. Everybody wants the prize, nobody wishes the manner.
Everybody desires to be a diamond, no person’s willing to get reduce. Everybody desires to visit heaven, no person desires to die. If you could repair procrastination, what could your life be like? That’s why you couldn’t blow up, you ain’t got sufficient discipline to area you. At the center of bringing any dream into fruition, is willpower.
It’s getting command of your thoughts in an effort to pick out moves which might be to your very own nice interest. Every day we are selecting sh*t that’s not in our personal first-rate hobby. So if the arena is attacking you, and the sector wants to combat you, and the world’s trying to keep you down, so you’re gonna prevent your self from getting what you dream? Self-field is the middle of all cloth success. You can not win the conflict towards the sector if you couldn’t win the war in opposition to your own thoughts.
And there are the ones of you on this room, you’re gambling. You’re still giving 50%, you’re still giving 70%. Look, stop that activity. If you’re gonna move every day and deliver that task 70%, give up that task.
So in case you’re now not finding that motivation which you want, forget about approximately it. Instead, impose a few daily area in your lifestyles. And begin today. Lazy human beings do a little work and think they ought to be triumphing, however winners work as difficult as feasible and still worry if they’re being lazy.
So if you’re a winner, you ain’t cushy. Every day I stand up and deliver the whole thing I’ve were given to everything I’m a part of, genuinely because this is who I am. Like, the best factor I need each day of my lifestyles is 86, 400 seconds. That’s it.
Like, I don’t want a few praise. Like, the simplest element I need is breath in my frame and I’m gonna flat-out move and get it. You’re now not in right here to get an achievement, you’re in here to pay your f*cking dues, so later in life, you never wonder what if. We just erase that out of the equation.
We’re putting the work in now so we never marvel what if. Not run by the clock, run with the aid of our preference of in which we wanna pass the following day. Because the more power you deliver, the more that life can express through you, can create through you. We don’t know when god’s gonna take us out of here, so every day has gotta be the satisfactory day.
Every day, we gotta cross get it, each day, we gotta exercising.This will be the remaining day and due to the fact this may be the closing day, we will live it like we used to live it. Too a lot of you in this room, you act such as you’re gonna be 200, three hundred. You are jogging out of time.
Act find it irresistible. You know what separates the winners from the losers on this international? The difference is that winners are honest with themselves approximately the attempt that they installed. They don’t blame whatever but themselves when they don’t get the result they’re after, as an alternative, they apprehend their own lack of attempt, they take obligation for it, and that they repair the f*cking difficulty. Only you may hold your self returned from getting what you need.
Not your parents, not your instructors, now not your instances, you are in control. Every unmarried day is a win or a loss. Did you do what you had to do these days? Because that’s all that topics. There isn’t any magic, there is no success.
It’s one day at a time, one win at a time, until you are making prevailing who f*ck you are.
You can either live your dreams or live your fears. One thing I know about life is a guarantee. Change is inevitable.
As much as you like to be in your comfort zone, as much as you like to be stable, as much as you like to control your environment, the reality is everything changes If you’re doing real good at some point, some bad’s gonna happen in your life You are putting things off because in the short term it’s easier, it’s more comfortable, It’s more pleasurable to be distracted or to indulge yourself doing something else than it is to sit down and do the actual work to create the outputs that matter when they are needed. You’re not racing anywhere. Slow down, stop looking around at what everyone else is doing and focus on where you are. And what’s important to you.
You gotta talk to yourself and you build yourself up and you’ll feel your energy level coming up How do you gain persistence and how do you start to have more good days than bad days? You’re gonna hate this advice, but it absolutely works. You must come up with a morning routine that you do every single morning, or at least more mornings than not. That puts you in control of yourself and in control of your day. You have got to be willing to make the hard decision.
You’ve got to be willing to feel uncomfortable, to feel awkward, to face rejection, to fail, to feel pressure. You’ve got to be willing to face those things because that’s what’s necessary for you to grow. If you’re going to get in the zone if you’re going to do fourth quarter living you’ve got to be comfortable hitting a wall. If I got any runners out there any fighters out there any athletes out there anybody that’s ever stressed the limits you know that in order to get to the zone you got to hit that wall first.
You got to hit that brick wall first. What does that mean? You got to get to a place in your life where all your strength is gone and you’re no longer operating on strength but now you begin to operate on will. Who wins if you keep blaming them? Who wins if you move on, forget about them and create the best life and success you could ever imagine? Who wins if you move on? Who wins if you forget about them? who wins if you create your best ever life, full of success and abundance? YOU WIN! Take back your power. First and foremost, wake up on time When that alarm goes off.
Get your butt out of bed. 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 go. Why is that important for persistence? The reason why is because the first decision that you’re making of the day is to actually get up and get moving. – The comfort zone is one of the greatest enemies of human potential and of your potential.
When people get into a comfort zone they strive to stay in that comfort zone. Even if they’re unhappy with their situation. Often their whole lives pass them by while they’re furnishing and reinforcing their little rut of medium performance. You need the courage to continually move yourself in the direction of your biggest goals and ambitions.
You need to be willing to face discomfort in order for you to grow. You need the courage to launch in faith with no guarantees of success. Someone once wrote, “If every obstacle “Must first be overcome “Nothing will ever get done. ” Courageous people are those who have a dream and set a goal.
They make a plan, and they take the first step with no assurances and no guarantees that their efforts will result in success. However, if you look upon every step forward as a learning experience and every set-back as a valuable lesson that has been sent to you to make you stronger and better you will not be afraid to launch in faith into the unknown. You need the courage to risk failure. You need the courage to endure constant set-backs and disappointments and temporary defeats.
You need to learn to deal with failure by realizing that failure is an indispensable prerequisite for success. You can’t succeed without failing and failing lots of times. Remember that wonderful quote from Thomas J. Watson Sr.
the founder of IBM. He said, “If you want to be successful faster “You must double your rate of failure. ” He said, “Success lies on the far side of failure. ”
I needed to make a decision I had to determine to turn out to be my personal life. I needed to accept as true with in myself like by no means before. You’re the creator of your own destiny. Do you consider destiny? Destiny? Predestined achievement? Have you ever imagined this destiny being poor? No, because face always will take you inside the proper direction. Not simplest can destiny alternate you right into a higher person you can manipulate it. Well maybe you’re leaving out the which means of life. That’s what it looks like to me. It’s like right here you are suffering away. What makes it worthwhile. Right? It’s almost impossible to describe how horrific an idea that is.
Responsibility. That’s what offers life meaning. It’s like raise a load. Then you could tolerate your self. Cause have a look at you, you’re useless. Easily hurt, effortlessly killed. That’s the story of the fall. Pick some thing up and bring it, make it heavy enough so that you can think. Yeah, well useless as I am at least I could circulate that from there to there. You create your very own future. You just don’t know what you are at this very moment.
Take control now. Make practical decisions, decisions with significant intentions.
Manipulate your destiny. Make your lifestyle really worth the time you positioned it in your life that it’s really worth more than than the pain you feel now.
Don’t comply with the path prescribed via someone else. The cause you sense so uncomfortable at the inside is due to the fact you know you’re now not being the first-class version of you that you can be, that discomfort is looking to move you from in which you’re at to which you belong, your destiny is greatness, and you understand this at the inside and that voice just continues on calling and you’re in no way gonna have the piece till you go come to be who you’re assume to be.
Don’t give into fear, continue to outline your specific path.
You by yourself is the best character who can stay the existence that writes the story which you were meant to tell, I will use my power every day. I will use my spirit every day. I will supply my all every day. I am determined.
I am inclined to sacrifice. I am willing to move the extra mile. I will move the extra mile. I will do something it takes. I commenced to pay very cautious interest to what I began saying. I don’t realize if that happened voluntarily or involuntarily however I should feel a kind of cut up developing in my psyche. This break up and I’ve sincerely had college students inform me the same aspect has occurred to them after they listened to a number of the material that I’ve been describing to all of you. I cut it up into we could say, and one element became the let’s imagine the old me that was talking loads and that loved to argue and that loved ideas. And, there was every other element that turned into watching that part just with it’s eyes open and neutrally judging. And the part that turned into neutrally judging was watching the element that was talking and going that isn’t your idea. You don’t definitely trust that. You don’t surely understand what you’re speaking about. That isn’t true, I thought hmm, that’s clearly interesting.
That turned into occurring to love 95 percent of what I became saying. So then I didn’t certainly know what to do. Okay this is strange. So perhaps I’ve fragmented and that’s simply no longer a terrific factor at all. I mean it wasn’t like I became hearing voices or anything like that, it wasn’t like that. It turned into human beings have more than one part. So then I had this bizarre conundrum, it turned into which of these matters are me? Is it the element that’s saying no that’s rubbish? That’s a lie that you’re doing that to impress humans, you’re simply trying to win the argument. Was that me? Or changed into the part that become my everyday verbal business? And I didn’t recognize it, however I determined, I could go together with the critic. And then what I attempted to do when I found out, was to assume saying things that made me weak. I imply I’m still looking to try this, due to the fact Im usually feeling once I talk, whether or no longer the phrases that I’m saying are either making me align or making me come apart. I suppose the alignment I definitely do suppose the alignment. I suppose alignment is the propermanner of conceptualizing it, because I suppose in case you say in such matters that you are authentic as you may say, then let’s imagine then they come up they come out of the depths interior of you. We don’t recognise where thoughts come from. We dont understand the ways down into your substructure the thoughts emerge. We dont understand what tactics of physiological alignment are essential for you to talk from the middle of your being. We dont apprehend any of that. We don’t even conceptualize that. But I accept as truth, that you could experience that. I found out a number of that from studying Carl Rogers, who by the way is an incredible clinician. Because he pointed out intellectual fitness in elementas a coherence between the religious or the abstractand the physical. That the 2 matters were aligned. There’s quite a few idea of alignment in psychoanalytic and scientific thinking. But anyhow, I determined that I might begin practicing not pronouncing matters that might make me weak. What took place turned into that I had to forestall saying almost the entirety that I turned into saying. I might say ninety five percent of it. That’s a hell of a surprise to awaken. I mean this changed into over some months but its a hell of a surprise to awaken and recognize that youre typically dead wood. It’s a shock. And you may assume well do you really need all of that to burn off? There’s nothing left but a touch of husk, five percent of you! It’s like nicely if that 5 percent is solid, then perhaps that’s precisely what you want to have happen.
Adopt the mode of genuine being. And this is some thing like refusing to take part in the lie in deception and the lie. To orient your speech as plenty as you can towards the truth. And to take responsibility to your personal life and possibly for the lives of different people. And there’s some thing approximately that that’s meaningful and accountable and noble, however additionally serves to mitigate the very suffering that produces say the nihilism or the fleeing into the arms or the break out into the arms of totalitarians to begin with.
You need something to refuge you against your very own vulnerability. You can assume and say and do certain matters and consider sure matters, however in case you convey any strength it’s different. It doesn’t matter what you’re looking to manifest. Let me give you an example.
Theres a number of human beings that date the same persona gain and once more and again or they’ve got the identical commercial enterprise problem again and again and again. Same obstacles!
“Why why is this continually taking place”? It’s motive? you convey an energy- I trust that- So what I analyse and I went to India and discovered these items about myself is primary my siblings have been all hyper-intelligent students. They all went to the Ivy Leagues. So I type of had a chip on my shoulder that I didn’t visit Harvard, Penn or Columbia. My siblings have tons more instruction, also I had that going on. My grandma who my mother turned into a teacher could take us after school was this sensible old type of Yoda form of character. And I might go “Grandma I’m bored, I don’t need to study!” She is going “Only silly human beings get bored. Smart human beings assume of factors to do”. Well this changed my cellular, reminiscence my neuro-pathways and into my code, my DNA. So my energy shifted. What did that mean even though? That way I projected my lack of confidence approximately being stupid. Made me an ego pushed guy. Who then surrounded himself with the wrong humans and I was once the best made, sure I changed into the smartest man inside the room. Now if I’m the smartest guy in the room, I’m within the wrong room- You’re within the wrong room.
My query is, I’m an entrepreneur, it’s very top notch but no longer all days are remarkable in a organisation so what are your hints and tricks for you recognize hard days?- I think there’s big confusion round entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurship sucks. I suggest it’s lonely its high-hazard, I mean I cant stay with out it, however it’s like an awful boyfriend or lady friend right, like there’s a ton of terrible days being an entrepreneur, not to mention 98% of entrepreneurial ventures are going to fail, so there’s going to be a truly horrific f(bleep) day to your future. For me, I assume that is a completely private question. I suppose its how you’re wired. I’m so all-in entrepreneur.
I select the pain. I think one of the motives that I love the Jets so much is due to the fact they bring about me a lot pain! I love the climb. To me the setback is exciting. I love whilst some thing goes wrong it’s in which I shine the most however that’s now not for every body right? It can be very difficult and whilst you begin affecting your life and your family and all the different matters it could get actual nasty. To me the manner I deal with matters even at the few uncommon days when I in reality struggle.
At the end of the day it’s money, but for me it’s no longer just money, its my legacy.
And, that includes hitting the snooze button, sitting on the couch and eating donuts.
It’s all habit-forming. You know what else is habit-forming? Discipline
Setting the alarm and getting up and working out.
It’s never too late to form some disciplined habits.
You are not where you wanna be, not because you need any more gifts, you don’t need nothing else!
All you need is to discipline yourself. You need to learn to tell yourself no!
But, you can’t tell yourself to quit. You gotta get to a point where you’re disciplined. You need to learn to check yourself. And, I want you to say the reason I’m not at amazing yet, is becauseI hit the snooze button, that’s why I’m not amazing right now, but I CAN BE!
The reason why I’m not amazing right now is ’cause I couldn’t get up early enough,’cause I told myself I’m not an early person. I’m not amazing because I’m not doingwhat I’m supposed to be doing to be amazing. Your mind is a weapon, and you’ve got to begin to use it and control it as one!
Most people are out of control with their mind, they don’t point it at something,they let the world point it and they misfire all the time.
You have control over your mind, you just have to assert it. You have to decide that you are going to be in control. That you are going to do what you want to do.
Weakness doesn’t get a vote. Laziness doesn’t get a vote. Everyone wants some life hack that eliminates the need to do the work, but that does not exist. No, it’s just wishful thinking!!!
You have to do the work. You’ve got to hold the line. You’ve got to make it happen. What could you be if you worked as hard as you could? What could you be if you imposed real discipline in your life? I say you crank up the volume on that voice and conquer yourself.
Crank up the volume on that question, max it out. And thengo get some. You haveto master the monotonous.
It’s the boring sh*t. It’s the everyday sh*t. It’s the regular sh*t It’s the sh*t that you do every day that 99% of you motherf*ckers think doesn’t matter.
They look at it like you do a few things, “I f*cking ate right for 3 days, why am I not a f*cking fitness model?” “I did my tasks that I needed to do,I sent 5 emails, I called 10 people, why am I not running a 10 million dollar company? “Because they don’t understand what mastering the monotonous means. It means doing the sh*t that most people are too f*cking undisciplined to do, day in and day out, with perfection. Doing it better than everybody else. Doing it to the best of your ability.
You have to remind yourself that these little things that you do are going to lead to the big things.
Are you going to do your workout or are you not? Are you going to do your cardio or are you not? Go look yourself in the mirror and I want you to vow to be amazing, I want you to vow that there are no more excuses, from this day forward, I’m not just gonna be getting pumped up, I’m not just gonna be fired up, I’m about to start applying. Make a commitment to yourself today, vow to yourself today that you will make whatever sacrifice, that you will pay whatever it takes, that you will do whatever you have to do to be amazing.
It is us. We have to train, we have to prepare, we have to harden ourselves through suffering, and while it hurts and it does hurt, it is that discipline that will ultimately bring us freedom.
