A Review by Kirkus

A personal growth manual on the importance of speaking up for oneself, particularly regarding matters of identity.

Building on the success of her Rants & Randomness podcast and first book, I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual (2017), Ajayi Jones, “a proud Nigerian woman,” pulls no punches in this well-organized guidebook. She asserts that the core basis of considering oneself a professional troublemaker involves an understanding that “chaos can come from being honest and authentic and going against the tide,” and her book demands that readers confront doubts and move toward fearlessness. The author’s goal is to get readers to communicate the wants and needs that continually hold them back from achieving everything from simple wishes to lifelong dreams. Split into three action-item sections—Be, Say, and Do—the guide shows how to work on internal issues before expanding outward, cultivating one’s voice to speak up for the greater good, and progressing from mere words to tangible movements that make a bigger difference.

Ajayi Jones personalizes the narrative by incorporating anecdotes from her beloved grandmother (“the definition of boisterous”), whose life epitomized the lesson of “living beyond your fears.” The author also includes exercises that show how to maximize personal core values; the power of being an audacious dreamer (“dreaming is a gesture of courage in itself”); and the importance of self-exploration, clarity, and empowerment.

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