What Stoicism Teaches Us about Patience

By Conqueror Team

“No greater thing is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.”

– Epictetus

We may see attributes of competence, perseverance, insight, and enthusiasm in people who live creative and empowering lives. What is often overlooked is an individual’s inner framework or set of rules that control their thinking and actions. How does one behave when a failure occurs or adaptation is required? What stories do they tell themselves? To put it another way, what is their philosophy?

Every person may benefit from a stoic mindset. It enables us to look at – and accept – the facts as they are, to reach the proper judgement calmly, and to administer justice in a courteous manner. Empathy can help us understand why people behave the way they do. That is a test of patience.

What does “be patient with those who don’t” mean?

Does this mean that we should admit defeat when competitors use deception to gain a contract? Or do we enable clients to fail to pay what is owed to us? Or do you turn a blind eye when vendors mislead you about their capacity to deliver?

What about misbehaviour by members of our company? Should we be patient if our own workers or agents go against our values?

This stoic commandment simply states that we should not be surprised or outraged when people violate our trust. We can scarcely expect to go through life without someone attempting to exploit us. So why be startled when it occurs?

A patient person can deal with stress and other emotions efficiently because they learn to manage their surroundings rather than allowing them to dominate them. People who are patient are less prone to suffer from depression and other negative emotions.

“The only thing that isn’t worthless: is to live this life out truthfully and rightly. And be patient with those who don’t.” – Marcus Aurelius

The Stoics were also good at avoiding getting carried away by emotions and thoughts. The “discipline of assent” is to resist the urge to do something you know you shouldn’t do. But, as you are aware, that is quite difficult.

Epictetus believed that the crucial moment was when you were deciding. Simply catch yourself when you’re about to act and merely postpone. You don’t have to grit your teeth and be a superman. Simply take a moment to reflect.

“I will keep constant watch over myself and, most usefully, will put each day up for review. For this is what makes us evil — that none of us looks back upon our own lives. We reflect upon only that which we are about to do. And yet our plans for the future descend from the past.” – Seneca, Moral Letters, 83.2

Patience brings a calm and pleasant frame of mind that refuses to be upset or annoyed by the seemingly sluggish pace of things. Even if problems beyond your control emerge and urge you to worry or respond violently, learning patience will allow you to stay calm and in control of such situations.

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10 Steps To Improving Your Attitude Through Stoicism

By Domithla Nyachieo

What exactly is Stoicism? Can anyone develop a Stoic mindset? Stoicism is a life philosophy that stresses the importance of agency, mental toughness, and self-discipline as elements for living a happy life. The stoic attitude is being tough with oneself and tolerant with others in order to keep the mind clean and avoid being influenced by negativity.

Most of us will face enormous loss and misery at some point in our lives. We should not oppress ourselves under adverse conditions. We should not try to cease feeling our emotional pain; instead, we should appeal to the fact that time passes. Change is experienced through emotions. As a result, we may always be certain that our pains will pass. Grief, rage, and sadness might feel overpowering and heavy, but we can choose to recognise how time will diminish our sorrows by cultivating a good attitude.

In this post, we’ll look at how Stoicism may help you improve your attitude, let’s look at them.

  1. Do Not Seek Pleasure

You have an intrinsic capacity to maintain your soul free of desire, confusion, and other negative emotions. You were given self-control, for example, to oppose your need for pleasure. However, you were not given any virtue to oppose your need for justice, therefore nature must have intended for you to avoid pleasure and pursue justice. Stoicism teaches us how to be steady and disciplined in our pursuit of justice and purpose.

  • Follow Nature and Logos

Obeying the rules of nature and logos, by definition, will assure a good existence. Many people, however, do not. There are several ways to contradict nature and logos: Fighting against your natural state, isolating yourself from your group, and acting selfishly all pull you away from your natural state. Going against logos and nature is blasphemy. To resist nature is to resist the will of the universe. This sort of blasphemy might manifest as unfairness, greed, or deception. Nature did not design for those things to occur—remember, you exist as a higher creature to serve others.

  • Accept your failures and faults.

Failure is an unavoidable aspect of life, as any Stoic philosopher would tell you. Consider any successful person you know. They most likely failed several times on their way to success. After one or two blunders, most individuals become disheartened and give up. If you believe you can establish a profitable business without losing money at some time, you are delusory. If you believe you can improve your social confidence and become more outgoing without encountering rejection, you’re probably daydreaming.

“A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.”

 – Seneca

  • Consider how magnificent your existence is

It’s a wonder that you’re still alive. Science has no explanation for the existence of the universe at all. The Stoics acknowledged the importance of this concept. They discovered that reminding oneself of the wonder of life is an effective technique to make you appreciative of your existence. Every day, you get to get up and live your life. And that is really incredible. Close your eyes. Consider how incredible it is that your heart is continually pounding. Be thankful for every minute you are alive.

  • Don’t Give In to Pain

Remember that you can withstand any long-term difficulty, whether physical or emotional—unbearable suffering, by definition, fades swiftly. However, considering living with such agony and struggle for the rest of your life might be daunting. Instead, concentrate on the current situation. Furthermore, pain frequently masquerades as sickness or exhaustion. When you are suffering from such things, remember not to succumb to the anguish.

“You have power over your mind—not outside events. realise this, and you will find strength.” – MARCUS AURELIUS

  • Knowing Yourself

Know yourself! Socrates really inspired the Stoics, and if you had to summarise Socrates’ teachings in two words, they would be, ‘Know yourself!’ In other words, know what is essential to you and what principles you want to live by. In your life, seek clarity and simplicity. If you wish to have equanimity or peace of mind in your life, don’t let outside events or other people’s opinions distract you. Of course, it takes a lot of introspection to figure out what type of life you want to live and what will give your life purpose.

  • Focus exclusively on the essentials

Maintain your attention. Don’t allow yourself to get sidetracked by little issues. You don’t have to know everything. Furthermore, you don’t need to care about much of the nonsense that everyone in our culture is talking about. The Stoic virtue of Wisdom is neither about obtaining as much information as possible nor is it about having valuable knowledge that exclusively serves you. True wisdom is the capacity to be adaptable rather than rigid in your thoughts and beliefs in order to help make the world a better place.

  • Love of fate

The Stoics developed a number of epithets that act as reminders of fundamental notions. ‘Amor fati’ is one such term. These two Latin words mean “the love of fate.” The key word here is ‘love.’ It’s not a resentful acceptance of fate, but a plain and visible embracing of the unknown, of some degree of unavoidable danger. It surely does not imply avoiding fate—saying no to everything that makes us feel uncomfortable or vulnerable.

We can’t change the world, but we can change how we react to it. Saying yes to your reality, good and terrible, lessens fear while also adding purpose to our existence. It may be argued that if we say yes to everything, we accept everything. If we accept everything, we will not move to fix what is wrong with the world.

  • Assess your thoughts and actions from a broader perspective.

Stoicism is not about self-improvement for the sake of self-improvement. It all comes down to making the world a better place. Including kindness and compassion in your goals increases their likelihood of success. Consider how we are all inherently related and maintain as broad a vision as possible.

  1. Lead by example.

The people in your life will pick up a lot more from watching how you live than from any advice you may offer. This is due in part to the fact that humans and the majority of other animals learn by imitating others naturally, as well as the fact that individuals become hostile when given instructions.

“On no occasion call yourself a philosopher, and do not speak much among the uninstructed about theorems, but do that which follows from them. For example, at a banquet, do not say how a man ought to eat, but eat as you ought to eat.” –Epictetus

How Stoicism Help Prevent Addiction

ByTonny Wandella

Control is the cornerstone of stoicism. We must ignore what we cannot control and concentrate on what we can. This appears to be pretty straightforward in theory. The reality, however, is that life gets in the way, primarily through addictions. Addiction is something we cannot control by definition. If we don’t have control over our actions, how can we focus on cultivating a stoic mindset?

The Stoics caution us against addictions because of this. And they don’t simply refer to drug or alcohol addiction. There are several lesser but no less pernicious addictions, even if these two are unquestionably the most hazardous and fatal. We get dependent on junk food, TV, social media, video games, cellphones, and other things.

The Stoics would contend that there are some pleasures from which we should never indulge. We should avoid pleasures in particular that might seduce us in a single interaction. This could include the enjoyment that comes from using particular drugs: The Stoics would have likely advised against using crystal meth if it had been around in antiquity.

There is simply perception, according to a Stoic. To put it another way, everything that occurs is an objective fact that we attribute to our views, making it either positive or terrible in our perspective. The Stoics held the view that any chance was favourable in this regard. This is a really beneficial concept for recuperation.

Relapse should not be viewed as a failure, but rather as a chance to better understand our triggers or discover new coping mechanisms. We must hone the skill of seeing opportunities rather than challenges. This entails utilising our intelligence, seeking bravery, and being honest with ourselves.

You may have heard the Christian prayer, “God, give me the knowledge to discern the difference, the bravery to change the things I can, and the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.” With anything we could control, there are also some things we can’t control, as this “prayer” illustrates.

We try to concentrate on things we can alter while in recovery. For instance, we cannot erase the past, we cannot alter the fact that we’ve had a mental health or drug use disease, but we can move in the direction of sobriety. We may replace our unhealthy behaviours with better ones. Perceptions may be altered. Self-change is possible.

Stoicism gives us the principles and skills we need to live a moderate existence. It provides us with the tools required to develop wisdom, bravery, justice, and temperance. Substance abuse therapies employ many of these stoic qualities.

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By Kirkus

How to overcome fear and right wrongs.

In the first of four proposed volumes on the cardinal virtues of temperance, justice, wisdom, and courage, Holiday, author of books on egotism, Stoicism, and falsehoods spewed by the blogosphere, among many other topics, offers uplifting thoughts, examples, and anecdotes meant to motivate readers to act courageously. He wants his readers to take risks, challenge the status quo, “run toward while others run away,” and “do a thing that people say is impossible.” As in previous books, the author mines ancient Greek philosophers, statesmen, and military leaders for their thoughts on fear, cowardice, boldness, and heroism.

Among myriad individuals Holiday cites as courageous are Florence Nightingale, Ulysses S. Grant, Abraham Lincoln, Theodore Roosevelt, Eleanor Roosevelt, Frederick Douglass, Charles de Gaulle, Winston Churchill, John Lewis, and Peter Thiel, whose successful attack on the gossip site Gawker is one that Holiday finds admirable. Thiel, incensed because Gawker outed him as a gay man, “found agency where others saw nothing but impossibility.” Holiday claims that fear—of what others might think of us, of the unknown consequences of our actions—is the enemy of courage. “When fear is defined,” he asserts, “it can be defeated. When downside is articulated, it can be weighed against upside.” Holiday’s tone evokes the voice of a sage, imparting pithy remarks that sometimes border on the hackneyed: 

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Voluntary Discomfort (With audio version)

Stoicism is a way of life that helps to endure hardship and enjoy life. It proposes that we should use reason to align ourselves with the flow of life. The Stoics call this ‘living in accordance with Nature’. In Ancient Greece and Rome, its followers ranged from slaves to emperors and from athletes to business men.

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Stoics use a variety of exercises to attain inner peace and happiness. One of these is to consciously practice voluntary discomfort. This means: putting ourselves in situations that we don’t particularly like, in order to grow beyond them. In this article, let’s take a look at what the practice of voluntary discomfort entails.

The first question that pops up in everybody’s mind when talking about voluntary discomfort is: why? Why would any sane person willingly put himself in a situation that is uncomfortable? How does discomfort contribute to inner peace and happiness? Is the opposite not true: to be peaceful and happiness, don’t you need comfort?

Don’t worry: there is a good reason for doing this. Essentially, voluntary discomfort allows you to cling less to external circumstances and rely on your own strengths instead. It strengthens our mind to endure hardship, whenever this may befall us. Exposing ourselves to hardships in untroubled times prepares us for more difficult times ahead. It’s training for the mind. I like to see voluntary discomfort as a trade between feeling a little bit worse right now to be stronger in the future.

Now that the value of voluntary discomfort is clear, let’s take a look at what it is. We can separate two types of voluntary discomfort: physical discomfort and emotional discomfort.

Physical discomfort puts our body in an uncomfortable state, and includes activities like cold showers, fasting, under-dressing for the weather, and many more. This is the most common practice of voluntary discomfort among Stoics, and the easiest of the two types. Moreover, there are many gradations in this practice, so everyone can find the gradation that fits him or her best. For example, starting Stoics should not put themselves in physical danger by attempting to fast for a long period, or get seriously ill after walking around in shorts on a freezing winter day. However, a few minutes under a cold shower should be no problem to most (unless of course you have heart or other medical issues). The threshold to practice this kind of discomfort is therefore low, but the results can be big. Imagine what it feels like to stand under a cold shower without minding the cold at at all. That’s a great testimony of endurance.

Emotional discomfort induces us to experience negative emotions (passions) such as shame, anger or fear. A famous example in Stoic texts is that of Stoicism’s founder, Zeno, who was challenged to walk through Athens drenched in lentil soup. Diogenes the Cynic also was a master at emotional discomfort and is rumored to sleep on the streets, and urinate, defecate and masturbate in public – which, by the way, I don’t endorse because of other ethical arguments. Putting yourself in an situation of emotional distress allows you to experience that it is actually not the end of the world. If you are then later forced in a similarly distressing situation (public opposition, extreme poverty, etc.) you are better able to cope with it.

In short, physical and emotional discomfort both allow you to train your mind now for discomfort in the future. It is like a vaccine: by injecting yourself with a controlled dose of discomfort now, you are better resistant to future discomfort. This, in turn, contributes to inner peace and happiness over the long term.

Direct action: Start small. Next time you shower, end with a few minutes of cold water. You’ll see it’s not the end of the world.

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